Where to being! I am a single mom of 3 crazy and wonderful kids. My oldest is 17, my middle child is 16, and my youngest is 13. I have raised these crazy, wonderful, and beautiful children all on my own. I was married when my first was born; however, it didn’t last long. He had another love in his life that I was completely oblivious too…drugs. I was young and very naive when I decided to get married. It wasn’t the picture perfect romance, but I am a simple person and did not need a lot. We were married in May 1999. I was very independent, living on my own, and working at a bank at the time. For some reason his charm overwhelmed me and I quit my job and off we went to another state so he could work. On our way out of town, we decided to get married in Tennessee. My wedding cost $50. Every girls dream. I definitely noticed a lot of changes and a lot of problems and I just didn’t feel comfortable anymore. I found out I was pregnant and was happy, but very hesitant. I went home to visit my mom and upon my return, I found out he was cheating on me and doing drugs.
Here I was 1700 miles from home, 7 months pregnant, and no family around. He was what I call an “isolator”. He wanted me isolated from all my friends and family, very controlling, and just someone I really didn’t know like I thought I did. I had my baby girl in July 2001. She was 3 months old when I decided it was time to leave. I filed for divorce in January 2002 and found out I was pregnant, again. I was divorced in May and in August I had my second baby girl. Here I was, alone, divorced, and with two baby girls. I was lucky enough to have my mom help me out with bills so I could go back to school. My dad helped out with babysitting and things were going OK. After a few years, I had a lapse in judgment and had a one night stand with an ex-boyfriend and that landed me pregnant again and I had my son in June 2005.
I was working from home as a medical transcriptionist, this was not working out for me. This is a daytime job that needs concentration to do. Well, you can imagine, I had 2 toddlers, and one baby and trying to work from home. My oldest has ADHD among other disabilities and it was absolutely crazy trying to keep up with them and work. So, I changed my schedule and started working at night while they were asleep. HA! That didn’t work at all. I was staying up until 3:00-4:00 in the morning and only getting about 2-3 hours of sleep a night. I was worn completely out. I finally quit doing transcription because I just did not have the right environment to work. I began working for my family in their variety of different businesses. Years have gone by, my kids are growing up, and I find myself stuck. Working for family worked for the time I needed it too; however, it is not working anymore. Because it is family, I do not have any type of retirement, I do not get bonuses, nor do I get any type of raise. I have made the same amount of money for over 10 years. There is no room for any advancement. I am grateful to my family for helping me out when I needed it, but now at 44 years-old it was time to find something else.
Helping Other Moms
Throughout my years of raising children and working, I have learned a lot. I always heard and read the stories online of people making money. I must admit that I wasted a lot of money on the majority of the scams that are out there. I went through a lot trying to find extra money and figuring out how to make it without my families help. I was not receiving child support for my girls, although it was court ordered, he never paid. I do receive child support for my son, but it still isn’t enough being a single parent. I know there are a lot of other moms in my same position. They are still looking and searching trying to figure out how to make it. I am not talking about being extremely wealthy. I am just talking about survival. Just having enough so you don’t have to tell your kids “No, we can’t afford that right now”. Single moms know exactly what I mean. I want to be able to give moms a good, solid opportunity to work and make something for themselves and their children so that they can “Have it all”. That refers to having the solid career, being their for their children, and not having to say “No” all the time. Being able to afford to take the kids on a small vacation, pay for the housekeeper that they so desperately need, and just feeling independent and not struggle. This is what I hope to bring to other moms.
My goals in life are pretty simple. My children are happy, almost grown. I have one daughter starting college this year, she worked hard and will graduate earlier than expected. My oldest is working hard to graduate and hopefully make it through college to be a teacher, and very soon, it will just be me and my son. I could not be any prouder of my accomplishments with my children. I am proud of myself for the job that I have done. My goal now is to help them still throughout their life and to show other moms that it is not hopeless. There is potential and if I am able to do this, then so can you.
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.
All the best,